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- Condition
- Narrative Type
- book
- Type
- book
- Intended Audience
- General/trade
- ISBN
- 9781947793453
- Book Title
- Things We Didn't Talk about When I Was a Girl : a Memoir
- Item Length
- 8.8in
- Publisher
- Tin House Books, LLC
- Publication Year
- 2019
- Format
- Hardcover
- Language
- English
- Item Height
- 1.3in
- Genre
- Biography & Autobiography
- Topic
- Women, Personal Memoirs
- Item Width
- 5.9in
- Item Weight
- 19.9 Oz
- Number of Pages
- 360 Pages
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Product Information
A New York Times Editors' Choice and Best Book of the Year at TIME, Esquire, Amazon, Kirkus, and Electric Literature
Product Identifiers
Publisher
Tin House Books, LLC
ISBN-10
1947793454
ISBN-13
9781947793453
eBay Product ID (ePID)
18038570730
Product Key Features
Book Title
Things We Didn't Talk about When I Was a Girl : a Memoir
Format
Hardcover
Language
English
Topic
Women, Personal Memoirs
Publication Year
2019
Genre
Biography & Autobiography
Number of Pages
360 Pages
Dimensions
Item Length
8.8in
Item Height
1.3in
Item Width
5.9in
Item Weight
19.9 Oz
Additional Product Features
Lc Classification Number
Hv6561.V36 2019
Reviews
A stunning work of meta nonfiction. . . . Vanasco's narrative pushes far past the flattened media narrative of Me Too and asks uncomfortable questions about how to talk about rape culture, toxic masculinity and gender, justice, and resilience., Part memoir, part interview, Things We Didn't Talk About When I Was a Girl interrogates the terms of betrayal, the limits of redemption, asking us how can we forgive when we never truly forget?, Vanasco's wildly courageous decision to confront her rapist, question him, meet with him, and then invite her readers into her processing of that experience is, frankly, stunning. This is a book I'll teach and reread well into the future, grateful that fewer and fewer girls will grow up without the opportunity to talk about these things., About violence and forgiveness, about friendship and the unwanted title of victim, about digging deeper and deeper to seek answers., Carrying memories of rape sometimes feels like working, day in and day out, on untangling a hopelessly knotted chain. In this book, Jeannie Vanasco works through the gnarl until its terrifying expanse is stretched out before us. There is so much power in these pages: in the vulnerability she shows in seeking answers, in the deftness with which she builds a narrative where there was once only a mess of questions and silence., It's about violence and forgiveness, about friendship and the unwanted title of victim, about digging deeper and deeper to seek answers -- from yourself and from your bogeyman., With matchless grit and a vibrant mind, Jeannie Vanasco performs an absorbing autopsy on a friendship that ended in rape. Things We Didn't Talk About When I Was a Girl cuts through the silence of deep betrayal, gives contour to the aching space between forgiveness and absolution, and offers a living testament to the endless wreckage of sexual assault., Things We Didn't Talk About When I Was a Girl explores the common experience of rape with uncommon nuance and intense tenderness. In the process, the book also unexpectedly becomes a warm celebration of female friendship. Vanasco reveals the boundaries of your thoughts and feelings. Then she takes you beyond., It's a remarkably nuanced account of the complicated and confusing emotions that surface when your rapist is someone you knew and trusted., Vanasco's second memoir sets the canon of #MeToo-era creative nonfiction on fire: she interviews her rapist. ... This is a slow-burning, reverberating meditation on the nuances of morality, masculinity, and punishment. ... Inimitable. (Starred Review), In this brave and urgent memoir, Jeannie Vanasco asks if it's possible for a good person to commit a terrible act. In a moment where morality is so often rendered in flat, simplistic terms, Vanasco refuses to take the easy way out: she is generous yet exacting, fair yet relentless. Things We Didn't Talk About When I Was a Girl is a searching, brilliant book and Jeannie Vanasco is a formidable talent., In Things We Didn't Talk About When I Was a Girl, Jeannie Vanasco has done something extraordinary. She explodes rape culture at the level of language, shows us how we are trapped and how we might make ourselves free. This is a brilliant book, an astonishingly fierce inquiry into the places language won't go., Jeannie Vanasco has written exactly the book we need right now. I wish everyone in this country would read it., Vanasco immediately makes you wonder how we can take so much about sexual assault for granted, how we will accept lines about women asking for it and women's insistence that it only happened this one time. But the book has - and achieves - a higher ambition than being an astute study in sexual consent., Clearly this is an important and timely book. Even in a world that can seem brimming with stories similar to Vanasco's, hers stands out . . . heartfelt, painful, and essential., Vanasco performs a literary feminist miracle for all women who have been denied basic rights, been suspect, been labeled, been unbelievable after their rapes and assaults, and shines our collective shame outwardly, to ask a man why a choice to abuse is made., Intrepid. . . . A work that has the potential to change the way we think and talk about rape and the people who commit it., About how important it is to speak about these oft-silenced experiences that cause so many to feel ashamed, scared, and alone., It's hard to overstate the importance of this gorgeous, harrowing, heartbreaking book, which tackles sexual violence and its aftermath while also articulating the singular pain of knowing -- or loving, or caring for, or having a history with -- one's rapist. Vanasco is whip-smart and tender, open and ruthless; she is the perfect guide through the minefield of her trauma, and ours., Unflinching in her honesty and approach, Vanasco interrogates boundaries further shaping and re-shaping memoir as we know it. Wickedly clever and powerful, Things We Didn't Talk About When I Was A Girl is a necessary book., Vanasco is a brilliant craftsperson--blurring the lines between memoir, investigation, and interview, she confronts her years-ago rapist and dives headlong into the complexity of forgiveness and redemption, what was taken and what can be rebuilt. Our cultural discussion of rape is so deeply marked by silence. Enough with the silence. Enough. Vanasco has given us a bridge., Vanasco invites her readers to understand the complicated humanity involved in both causing and experiencing harm, leaving the limits and possibilities of accountability and healing as urgent, open questions. An extraordinarily brave work of self- and cultural reflection. (Starred Review), Jeannie Vanasco's rigorous and nuanced investigation of crime, trauma, secrets, and the telling of our stories, applies an agile mind and penetrating insight to the enforced silences that surround rape and its aftermath., A remarkably nuanced account of the complicated and confusing emotions that surface when your rapist is someone you knew and trusted., Vanasco gets at so many of the gray areas in our conversations about rape and the rehabilitation of its perpetrators. If some traumas don't fit into neat little narratives, then the pleasure of reading Vanasco is in knowing that messiness is OK, that there's no right way to handle such betrayals.
Copyright Date
2019
Target Audience
Trade
Lccn
2019-013796
Dewey Decimal
364.1532092
Dewey Edition
23
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